Dr. Buddhi Malla
Modern technology has revolutionized our lives with instant communication, advanced medical treatments, and easy access to information. Unlike the 1990s, when communication was slower and limited to phones, letters, and face-to-face interaction, today’s digital world connects us globally in seconds through smartphones, social media, and the internet. However, the convenience of modern technology comes with drawbacks—social isolation, privacy concerns, and a reliance on devices. In the 1990s, life was simpler, with more face-to-face interactions, outdoor activities, and less screen time. While technology has made life easier, it has also led to more stress, reduced physical activity, and less personal connection.
Two childhood friends met after many years and started talking about their school days in the 1990s. They laughed and remembered how simple and happy life was back then. Now, both had achieved their dreams—good jobs, big houses, fancy cars, and plenty of money. But as they shared stories about their lives, they realized something was missing. One friend said, “I’ve got everything I ever wanted, but life in the ‘90s felt much better.” His voice shook, and tears filled his eyes as he spoke about the joy, peace, and small but meaningful moments they had back then.
One of the friends began sharing about himself: “I have a handsome salary and was recently promoted to Manager in my company. I am performing well in my job, but when I think about my daily life, I feel that life in the 90s was far better than life in 2024. I wake up tired at 7 am, still sleepy, but I can’t go back to sleep because I’m already running late. I rush around in a large modern house built on a small plot of land, then drive a luxury car, stuck in traffic for hours, and often get yelled at by my boss—but I have to take it. In the 1990s, I earned a modest 4,000 a month. I woke up early, took a bath, wore simple clothes, had a delicious local breakfast, walked to the local temple, worshipped, and felt positive. Then I rode my bicycle to the office, which was nearby, and I arrived in ten minutes. My colleagues were supportive, and the work environment was friendly. My boss and friends greeted me warmly.”
As he continued, emotion overtook him, and tears started to fall. He went on: “Now, because of my busy life, I hardly get a chance to have breakfast with my family. I often end up having a light breakfast or, at times, no breakfast at all, relying on fast food. This unhealthy food is causing me to gain weight, and it’s become a source of embarrassment as some friends joke about my body.”
He paused and continued, “But in the 1990s, despite a busy schedule, I made time for a healthy lifestyle. Each morning, I shared a nutritious breakfast with my family, which helped me start the day positively. I ate homemade, organic food and never skipped meals. I valued even small moments with family and friends, and that helped me maintain a healthy weight and positive self-image. My disciplined habits earned admiration from my friends, who appreciated my fit and active lifestyle. These choices gave me confidence and balance, allowing me to thrive socially and professionally.”
After hearing his story, the other friend added, “In the 1990s, we lived in a modest house, but it was spacious enough to welcome many guests, offering warmth and hospitality. Today, even with a more comfortable living situation, I worry about where just one or two guests would sleep. Communication back then was simple—letters and face-to-face conversations were the primary ways to stay in touch. Children walked to school and played games during their commute. Now, even the shortest distance requires a vehicle.”
The friends continued sharing their memories: “In the 1990s, kids eagerly finished their homework so they could play outside. Outdoor games were the main form of entertainment, and we spent hours playing hide and seek, making paper toys, and enjoying marbles, football, and volleyball. As sunset, we continued playing under the moonlight, creating lasting memories. Today, however, many kids spend most of their time on smartphones or laptops, playing digital games instead of engaging in physical activities. The joy of outdoor play has been replaced by virtual entertainment, which limits their social interactions and physical activity.”
The first friend, in agreement with the second, said, “In the 1990s, life was beautiful, and people were more community-oriented, always thinking about helping others. Evening walks were a time for bonding, where neighbors would discuss the news, sports, society, and life. Watching movies in single-screen theaters was a common experience, with crowds cheering together. Cycling was not just exercise, but a fun and practical way for both children and adults to get around. Storytelling by grandparents fostered imagination and moral values. Village meetings at the Chautara brought communities together to resolve issues and plan activities. Today, technology, urbanization, and busy lifestyles have replaced these simple, unifying activities with virtual interactions and fast-paced routines. Oh! This 1990s era was a nostalgic, heartwarming era of true community and connection.
(Author Dr. Malla is a Banker.)
