Bidhya Karki
As a happy mother of a highly formed teenager and a teacher with more than ten years of classroom experience, I’ve realized that yelling isn’t always the best way to enact rules. It really shouldn’t. A child’s attention may be briefly captured by yelling, but it rarely imparts the lesson we really want them to learn. More frequently, it causes shame, anxiety, or detachment from. As a mother and an educator, I’ve discovered that genuine growth is fostered by discipline that is calm, consistent, and compassionate.
Listen Before Reacting
Children misbehave for a variety of reasons, such as fatigue, nervousness, attention-seeking, or just pushing boundaries. Take a deep breath and consider, “What might my child be feeling right now?” before imposing discipline. This pause enables us to react with compassion instead of fury. When a student misbehaves at school, I frequently get down on my knees and ask them, “What’s going on?” or “What happened?” At home, I do the same. Their actions are usually signals rather than hurtful remarks.
Set Clear and Consistent Boundaries
When kids know what to expect, they develop. I’ve witnessed the effectiveness of simple, dependable norms both at home and in the classroom. Children are more likely to obey limits if they are aware that hitting would result in a time-out or that bedtime is 8 p.m. being persistent fosters trust, and trust reduces the need for us to speak up.
Use Natural Consequences
Let natural consequences do the teaching rather than using harsh punishments. Allow your child to face the consequences at school if they forget their homework. They will feel cold and learn their lesson for the future if they refuse to put on a coat. These lessons from real life are more impactful than lectures, and they require no shouting.
Model the Behavior You Want to See
Our actions teach kids more than our words. They learn to talk quietly when we do so during stressful situations. When I lose my temper, I’ve made it a point to apologize and give an explanation. Being transparent deepens our relationship and indicates to them that, even for adults, growth is a continuous process. I read aloud to my child and take them to the library to locate the books if I want them to read more.
Make Time for Connection
A child is much more likely to collaborate if they sense a connection to their caretakers. Spend 10 to 15 uninterrupted minutes each day reading, playing, or talking with your child. Earn the trust of your child. By fostering emotional safety, this quality time promotes discipline when it’s required. I’ve found that when kids are loved and seen, they respond better at home and at school.
Final Thoughts
Like education, parenting is not about being flawless. Everybody has days when they feel worn out, angry, or overwhelmed. However, disciplining with calmness, consistency, and empathy can turn those difficult times into learning experiences. I can assure you that it works since I have raised my child with these values, but not flawlessly. Let’s bring up kids who listen with respect and understanding rather than fear. Orient him or her regularly. Provide details together with reasoning for disciplinary action.
